Find yourself yelling at the kids most of the time? Are the kids learning to yell back at you or at each other?
Many of the parents who come to parenting groups say “I’m tired of yelling at my kids, there has to be something else I can do to get my kids to listen to me”. One parent said “I tell my kids not to hurt each other, and then I smack them for hitting – it doesn’t make sense”.
There is a saying that goes “If you only have a hammer, everything looks like a nail”. Many parents don’t want to smack their kids or yell at them anymore, but they are not sure what else they can do. There are so many positive ways of communicating with your child, turning down the volume, and making connection with your child. Many of the parenting strategies in parenting courses like Triple P (Positive Parenting Programme) (for parents of children aged 2 to 12 years) or Circle of Security (for parents of children under the age of 2 years) are backed by fifty years of research into parenting.
Almost every parent who comes to a parenting group tells the same story about feeling isolated and judged. They frequently say that their family and friends ridiculed them for wanting to learn more about parenting. Parenting courses like Triple P are not for hippies or no-hopers. They are for people who truly care about the way they are raising their children and wanting a better life for them. They also want to squeeze some joy out of their parenting and build a relationship with their child which will stand the test of adolescence.
Have I sparked your interest? Search for one of these groups at the Resourcing Parents website www.resourcingparents.nsw.gov.au.
Categories: Parenting Skills